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  • Writer's pictureLara Ozarslan

Are you being celebrated or tolerated?

An idea to think about? Do you bend or break?

Importance of developing greater emotional resilience

Resilience, more often known as psychological flexibility is a key term we keep hearing lately. Well no surprise, especially 2020 required us all to put on our "resilient" hats. It's been possibly the craziest times I've ever known recently to say the least. I think this subject should be at top of our agendas in the workplace and in our personal lives.

What exactly is resilience?

To be emotionally resilient means to be able to spring back emotionally after suffering through difficult and stressful times in one's life. Stressed people experience a flood of powerful negative emotions which may include anger, anxiety, and depression. Some people remain trapped in these negative emotions long after the stressful events that have caused them have passed. Emotionally resilient people, on the other hand, are quickly able to bounce back to their normal emotional state (Mills & Dombeck).

Celebrate your small wins. Because - why not?

The more resilient you are, the better you're able to tolerate the feelings of stress, anxiety, and ... If you're more sensitive to emotional distress and are finding it difficult to cope with hardship or adversity, ... Celebrate your small wins.

One of the most uncomfortable experiences for some might be to be somewhere where they are tolerated but not celebrated. We will always experience ups and downs, but when we know that we are making a positive contribution and we are being the best version of ourselves (whether it is @work or in our personal life), we want to celebrate it with those around us. They don't celebrate you or WITH you? Doesn't matter... It's time to give back and teach them. It's your turn to celebrate the ones around you. Be a force of positivity, motivate and encourage people around you.. and then move on. ;)

On the other hand, to be tolerated, not celebrated — is that always a bad thing? Maybe, maybe not. It depends on your perspective. And this is just another idea to think about. At the end of the day can we maybe say the following: My worth does not depend on whether you tolerate or celebrate me?

“If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree.’’


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